Why I Quit Working Full-Time and Don’t Regret It

I quit working. I mean I quit working full-time jobs.

So, I quit working full-time

Imagine doing something for nearly every minute of your waking life, for 20 years and then BOOM it is gone.

Ever since I got my MBA degree, I was a banker. To say that banking was my career is inaccurate. It was much more. My work was my life. It defined my days, and all of it. I was consumed.

My work-life was my life – even on weekends and holidays. I have been called back from an annual vacation. Another time, I was asked to cancel an overseas trip we had planned. Just saying how my work was front and center in my life. It was priority number one.

I have worked on 48-72 hours with only 3-4 hours of sleep on multiple occasions. On these days, I would come home in the wee hours of the morning (while my daughter was fast asleep), catch an hour-two of sleep, have a quick shower and change of clothes, and be back out (before she woke up for school.) I enjoyed it.

And I was rewarded. There were accolades and recognition. I got great feedback from the bosses, amazing appraisals and on-time promotions. At home, I was the poster child of success among my cousins. I worked hard.

Life was great. Until it wasn’t

I loved my work (well – for most of the time). I learned new skills (organization, negotiation, handling a team), I formed great friendships. Quality of life improved over the years. Today I am able to lead a great life because of the money I earned. (and continue to because I managed to save and invest some of the money I earned from these jobs).

Then came a time when my personal growth started to slow down. I was no longer enjoying work as much as I did in the previous years or learning new things. I was not as excited about waking up each day and reaching office on time ( I still did it just because I hate tardiness). The work was no longer as fulfilling as it used to be.

I felt guilty about not fulfilling my role as a mom, a wife.
My home need more attention. How could I do so without feeling conflicted?
I wanted to put up a nice dinner on the plate for my family.
I wanted to go for my daughter’s sports day without having to constantly look at my phone to see if anything urgent needed my attention.
If she felt unwell, I wanted to be able to spend the day with her.

Also, I did not want to be working for someone else but be doing something of my own. I wanted to be able to invest more in my family, my house and my kid. I wanted to do this at the time I wanted to and not just on weekends and holidays.

Did I waste my career by quitting full-time work?

Did I waste my education? Am I a loser?

The decision to quit a full-time job was not easy. It had been coming for a couple of years before I was able to take the plunge. Yes, it took me a few years to take that leap of faith.

I do not regret my decision. Yes, I no longer have the security of a monthly income. Family finances are going to be tighter. But I will be doing things that I have been missing out on for so many years of my life.

How did I feel when I finally decided to quit working full-time?

I went through an entire gamut of emotions – if there was excitement, it was accompanied by anxiety. The sense of freedom was accompanied by a vacuum in my routine. The loss of a stable paycheck was real. I had to accept the fact that I society would view me differently, now.

I know there are many moms who struggle with the decision to quit working, just like I did for many years. To each one of YOU, I say, you are not JUST a stay-at-home-mom. You are much more –

You are the provider.
The provider of your child’s values, the provider of family memories, the provider of nourishment for souls and body.
You are the keeper.
The keeper of your child’s secrets, the keeper of family schedules, of projects, parties, and plans.
You are the essence.
The essence of your family, that makes everything blossom.

And I salute you, your work and your decision.

What Do YOU Think?

How many of you are SAHM/WAHM? Did any you work full time before quitting? Are you happy with your decision?

P.S. I loved this post from Lucky Orange Pants about SAHM moms being not ‘Just SAHM’ called I am the Keeper. Go ahead and read it.

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17 Comments

  1. Anshu Bhojnagarwala

    October 3, 2018 at 11:24 am

    That’s an honest post, Bhavna! Education doesn’t go to waste just because we are at home caring for our family, there are different application of education and in one way or the other, we are doing that. I loved the last part – yes we are the providers, we are the keepers and we are the essence of the family.

    1. pennies4cents

      October 3, 2018 at 3:38 pm

      Thank you, Anshu for your kind words. I feel validated in my decision and intend to make the best of it.

  2. Nyamat

    October 3, 2018 at 2:43 pm

    It was a big decision, definitely but the good part is that you don’t regret it. After all, it’s only one life we have and you won’t get back the years of your daughter growing up! Lots of love 🙂

    1. pennies4cents

      October 3, 2018 at 3:40 pm

      It definitely was a big decision, and it wasn’t easy. I am a happy camper now and intend to make most of my new life.

  3. Shilpa

    October 3, 2018 at 4:16 pm

    Hi dear, I know it is not very easy to let go a job just like that. But at the same time our priorities have to be set . Now it is the time to make those memories which you weren’t able to make because of your hectic schedules. Have fun with you D.
    https://shilparya.wordpress.com/2018/10/01/thankful-september-2/

  4. CherishingFlo

    October 4, 2018 at 9:43 am

    I love this! So glad you were able to get to connect more with your family! I am super young (no husband or kids) but have decided I wanted to work for myself and I don’t regret the decision despite not having gone the traditional route as some of my family and friends

    1. pennies4cents

      October 4, 2018 at 10:44 am

      I totally get you. When I was ‘super young’ myself, I too wanted to work. I mean I saw no other option. I did my MBA, got a job and worked. It is only in the last few years that I lost the mojo of doing a full time corporate kind of job.
      Good luck to you for your career and your work.

  5. Steph Thorne

    October 4, 2018 at 10:01 am

    Wow… I appreciate your honest writing about working full time. I have been feeling like I need to plunge into something different for awhile now, but I haven’t done it. Thank you for this!

    1. pennies4cents

      October 4, 2018 at 10:48 am

      Don’t we all come to that stage when we want to do something different. I so totally get you, girl. It take a lot to actually take the plunge. But follow your heart, girl. Just make sure you are able to meet your financial commitments for atleast a year – then go for it.
      Do you know what you want to do?

  6. Jamie

    October 11, 2018 at 6:37 pm

    Thank you for sharing your story. It is a great inspiration for others.

  7. Nessa Kirkland

    October 11, 2018 at 7:54 pm

    Loved this post! I think so many can relate to this and feel like their jobs to come first and that all you do is work and sleep. It is important to take time to reflect and make changes where needed. Thanks for this read.

    1. pennies4cents

      October 12, 2018 at 1:54 pm

      It makes me so happy when I find people can relate to this. It gives me a lot of encouragement and support. Thank you.
      You have said it well, it is important to take time to reflect and to makes changes, or else one will never grow.

  8. amira

    October 11, 2018 at 8:12 pm

    What a brave decision you took! I know it’s not easy to quit a job and lose a security of a paycheck every month but you shared a lot of great reasons why it makes sense for moms and good luck with your blogging journey!

    Great post,
    Amira at ASelfGuru

    1. pennies4cents

      October 12, 2018 at 1:55 pm

      Thank you, Amira, for your support and encouragement. So glad that you liked this post.

  9. Kristal

    October 11, 2018 at 8:47 pm

    I needed this today! Now that my youngest has started half-day kindergarten, every’s always asking me “so when are you going back to work?!”. Being a SAHM/WFHM is my work! I’m so much happier blogging from home, than I ever was in an office job 🙂

    1. pennies4cents

      October 12, 2018 at 1:59 pm

      Absolutely. Yes, there is the stability and the comfort of a paycheck, but on the other hand there is the joy and excitement of being your own boss, the satisfaction of realizing your own goals and the delight of being with your kids as they grow. Good luck to you, girl.

  10. Fifame

    October 12, 2018 at 12:40 am

    Thanks for sharing! It’s always a hard decision. For me, it needs careful plannong or strong gut feeling. Either way, once you do quit, you feel more enclined to do everything to make things work.

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