Being Purposeful – Achieving The Life You Envision

Lately I have been noticing that I spend a lot of time on social media. This is (always) a waste of my time – nothing gets achieved and I end not being

Like I would start writing a blog post, but then think of something and before I knew it I had fallen down the rabbit hole. A few hours would disappear while watching videos on YouTube or Facebook.

2018 began on a strong note, but as the year went along the momentum was lost. I regathered my energies in August, only to lose them before the year ended. Instead of working towards achieving objectives I was whiling away my days on the internet black hole.

During my review of how I fared in 2018, one theme appeared consistently – not losing sight of my goals and where I wanted to be. I needed to be purposeful and driven.

To achieve the goals for 2019 and move towards the life I envision for myself, I need to remain motivated and use my time wisely.

My biggest learning is to remain intentional and driven throughout 2019. This is embodied in my word of the year “PURPOSEFUL”.

Purposeful - Word of the Year 2019
My word of the year for 2019

Ways to become purposeful

Knowing My WHY

There is nothing more critical on your journey than knowing your reason. Your purpose is your beacon.

Staying motivated once the newness has passed is the main challenge for most of us, certainly for me. Once the initial excitement dies down, it becomes work.

This made me think about what fires me up? Why do I want to do what I am for the next few years? What is it that will get me out of bed early in morning each day?

For me the answer is simple, it is the smile on my daughter’s face. I don’t work hard for myself. No. I do so to provide a better life and more opportunities to this person who we brought into life. My choices about how I spend my time do not only affect me, they affect my family, the people I love, but most of all they affect the life my daughter lives.

It is not that I did not know it till know, it is just that I never thought about it.

Discovering your purpose is important. When you are thinking about your WHY, think of what lights that fire in your belly.

Knowing My WHAT

Identifying my motivators and the reason that my passion keeps alive is the starting point. The next step was to figure out where I wanted to go.

What are my goals for 2019? Where do I want to get to over the next 10-12 months? Or over the next 5 years? How about the next 25 years?

Do you know your short, medium and long-term goals? Doing a goal planning exercise is likely to help you give them structure.

In the meanwhile, have a look at how I am envisioning my 2019 to be.

Remember that all things are created twice: first in your mind, then in your life. So visualizing where you want to be at the end of a certain period is instrumental to achieving it.

Live In The Moment

I have decided that rather than wanting to do half a dozen different things simultaneously, I will slow down and do one thing at a time. I want to do so much but I end up not enjoying what I am doing.

This inevitably leads to me losing all my enthusiasm and giving it up completely.

For example, I want to learn SEO and Pinterest while being active on Facebook and Instagram. I will prioritize the things where I want to focus my time and energy.

I will be more focused so that I can truly learn from what I am doing as well as enjoy it. It is all about being purposeful in 2019.

Making a Daily Plan

Life goes by so fast. Before you know it, we are already half-way into the second month of the year. Where did all these days go?

I don’t know about you, these past days have flown by so fast. Or maybe it seems that way because I wasn’t being mindful of my time?

Because of this, I want to make sure that I am make each day count. The way to do this is to set out what I want to get out of my day. Each day will have clearly defined outcomes.

I will spell out at least one and no more than three outcome for each day. This could be to enjoy the day with my daughter or to publish an article on the blog.

An outcome is different from an action step. Achieving an outcome is often a result of performing multiple tasks. Thinking in terms of outcomes reduces the overwhelm of seeing multiple steps written down in front of you.

Facebook and Social Media

I have already deleted the Facebook and Twitter apps from my phone.

On my laptop, I have installed the News Feed Eradicator for Facebook extension for Chrome. This removes the black hole of the Facebook news feed and replaces it with a single quote.

Each working day I will visit one Facebook Group and spend no more than 20 minutes to see if there is anything that is new or important for me. Facebook groups are useful for networking with your peers, have relevant discussions which keep me updated with the latest in my field – e.g. the changes to Facebook’s algorithm.

If you find that you are spending too much time on social media and it is not allowing you to realize your potential, then you may want to consider deleting some from your phone, closing down to few. Blocking a certain amount of time during the day is also a good idea.

Focus on the Positives

I tend to waste a lot of time thinking about the possible outcomes and how things may turn out worse than I would want them to be. The fear of not being good enough is real

The thing is that I know the doubts are (most of the times) no good. These are inevitably things over which I have little or no control, whatsoever.

If you are like me and surround yourself with doubt and worry, then know that it is worth your time to step into the world of your fears and confront them.

I am determined to take risks, not strive for perfection and consciously look for the positives in whatever I do. Noting down my daily successes is key.

lady in thought with coffee mug.

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